Facing My Insecurities

I am not sure if you know this, but I am a shy and insecure person. When I am in a setting where there are lots of people, even ones I know a little bit, I almost feel like I should blend into a wall. What if people are only being nice and just want me to go away?

Tomorrow I am going to my third year of Northern Voice. I went to New York last summer for Blogher10, and I have a ticket to Blissdom Canada 11. Why do I go to conferences if I am shy and feel like no one will like me or want me around? I have to hope that I am not the only one who feels that way. I push through the shyness and remember the friends I have because of blogging and social media and catch their eye. I think of how my life has changed because of blogging and I am grateful.

How about you? Has blogging changed your life? Am I the only one who has to push through shyness?

7 comments to Facing My Insecurities

  • Aww. I’ll be there to hug you, Gwen :)

  • I used to be very uncomfortable at conferences, terribly envious of those little groups of long-lost friends who form little circles at the opening reception.

    Then I started using Twitter. Totally changed my enjoyment of conferences and removed the dread of that first entrance. Now I know, and know well, a handful of friends I’ve not met IRL. The next best thing to, “Hi, Peter! Nice to see you again!” is “Hey, you’re @polarisdotca? Great to meet you in person!”

  • Oakridge604

    At least you go. I weasel out of at least one conference every year. My boss always ask me to attend but I use the excuse that I’m too busy to attend. There is one conference I can’t get out of, however, and I put on a pretty good face to look like I enjoy it but deep down inside I’d rather be at home.

  • I will be there! You know me! we can be insecure together (because I’ve never actually attended a conference)

  • NanaLorraine

    Ever heard, “Fake it till you make it.” That is what I have done for a long time. You have always blown me away with the courage you have had since you were a little girl. You are a grown woman whom anyone would be proud to know. And that is not just your mother speaking. I would be proud to call you friend.

  • You are not alone my friend. I was so happy your face was the first I saw at top 30 yesterday. I had terrible anxiety about going. I don’t leave my house. I have been suffering a lot these past two years with getting out and blogging has helped me huge, though I’ve never been to a conference because well, flying is another issue for me. You are incredible, kind hearted and truly a great person and I am honored to say I know you and hug you and wanted you to know despite your own shyness you helped me so much through yesterday’s event.

    Thank you.

  • I’m a naturally shy kind of gal. My husband is so much better at making small talk and mixing and mingling. Often I have to push myself to actually go to events where I have to be on my own to mix and mingle. I’d much rather be the hostesss of an event. I can make such better chit chat when I’m passing out wine and cheese!