Lest We Forget: 2012

Since Aidan was 4 we have taken the kids to the Remembrance day ceremonies at Victory Square. I would have brought him earlier but at 3 I had a 3 week old baby and I really wasn’t up to it. This year was the first year that Aidan really got it and there was only interest in the ceremony and no whining about it being too long.

This year Aidan knew that his uncle had been to Afghanistan twice. He will know that his Great-great grandfather was in WWII. He wants to be a part of peace. Quinlan on the other hand doesn’t understand yet, but he was there and he put his poppy on one of the wreaths. One day he will understand and will be interested in the ceremony. We will not forget.

 

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Fall Photos

I love fall and I love taking pictures. Here are some of my favourites taken this fall so far.

Fall in Granville Loop

Fall in Granville Loop

 

 

Fall in Douglas Park

Fall in Douglas Park

Fall in Fairview

Fall in Fairview

Fall in Douglas Park

Fall in Douglas Park

I Love Bare Trees and Blue Sky

I Love Bare Trees and Blue Sky

Golden Path

Golden Path

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Things That Are True: Getting Cars Fixed or Maintained Sucks

There is almost nothing more annoying, nerve wracking and, horrific than taking a car into get the oil changed or something fixed. I actually have nightmares about bringing our car in for what should be routine maintenance. I am a smart and confident woman, most of the time, and I actually know at least a little bit about the mechanics of cars.

This feeling of dread started when Anthony and I bought our first car together. I was the one that brought the car in for almost all its maintenance. I dealt with one service rep in particular who seemed to think that all women were entirely uninformed about cars and couldn’t possibly be aware when something was wrong. That first car had some problems with the transmission and a few other problems that were never properly fixed.

I especially remember 2 incidents, the first was when this person accused me of running over sticks and ruining my radiator. There was also the time when  I let him know that there was a sound in the engine compartment that sounded like a loose belt.  I am certain that he didn’t take me seriously and instead of letting the service department know, it was overlooked. The very next day the alternator belt broke while I was driving home from work in rush hour traffic. The very next day I no longer had to deal with this service representative and the head of the service department was always there to help me from then on. I suppose this was because of the VERY bad service rating that I gave this person. I was pissed about the car breaking down when I specifically asked them to check for a loose belt.

When we got the Vue we got the extended warranty and kept going to the same dealership. We had fewer problems with this car and with the exception of needing a new tire after our trip to the Yukon and Northwest Territories things went pretty well. Once we were out of warranty we then just kept getting the oil changed every 6ooo K. Usually we went to an oil change place and for the first couple of times it was easy and not at all painful. Then the up selling started. The first time it was a cabin filter, and I really wasn’t sure so sure I went for it. Most of the time I just said no,  but it is a pain in the ass always needing to be firm.

The last time I took the car in was the day after I got back from Blogher in New York and I was on the way to get Aidan to piano and my mother and Quinlan were also in the car. I was so duped that I wrote a really long post that is sitting in my draft folder. I am not sure I have ever felt so incredibly stupid after getting the car maintained or fixed. There is an oil change place that has lost my business forever and I will never recommend them to anyone. To be clear, never ever go to Mr. Lube at Arbutus and 12th.

I decided that the changing of tires and buying thereof will fall to Anthony. I am tired of being treated badly by car service people. I am sorely sick of being treated like an idiot. No more up selling. No more filters, extra fluids or other extras. I will get what I want and NOTHING else. If you try, watch out, I will just leave and you will not get my business again. NO MORE I say. No more.

 

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Why Didn’t Buffy Get Paid?

There is one thing more than anything else that sticks in my craw about Buffy the Vampire Slayer. It is not the vampires or other demons, or even the sudden appearance of Dawn. The thing that bothers me most is that all the Watchers and Watchers council get paid and Buffy, the one of the divine birthright does not get a single cent from them. She puts her life on the line and fights night after night and she does not get paid.

It is obvious to me that Giles must have had a pretty decent salary as he was out of a job for over a year and managed to not only keep affording all his books and his home, but he also managed to buy himself a business with an impressive square footage. Sure it was on the monster beaten path, but it couldn’t have been too cheap to start a full retail business. Even when she gets the Watcher’s Council to rehire Giles, there is no compensation for her. She realizes she has all the power and she still does not get a cut of the loot. How on earth can the council afford to overlook such a relevant fact? If you want some power over a slayer, maybe you should pay her, or at least make sure that she doesn’t become destitute.

Do you really think that Faith would have been so easily swayed by the mayor if she wasn’t living in a piece of shit motel room that she couldn’t really afford? If the Watchers made sure that she wasn’t living hand to mouth then maybe she wouldn’t have been so eager to trash a sporting good store to get weapons.

As much as I love Buffy The Vampire Slayer, I wonder if this is just part of the society we live in at the moment. Joss Whedon tried to make a TV show where the girl was the Hero. She didn’t need anyone to help her but she still got the shit wages. She had a whole industry that was studying her, watching her and getting paid to research her and she almost lost her house and had to get a minimum wage job to pay the bills. We as a society still treat women like that. We don’t pay them as well, and for traditionally female jobs like teaching, nursing, daycare,  we don’t pay anyone in those jobs what they are worth.

It reminds me of the whole problem Kristen Stewart had after the affair with a married director. The whole slut shaming aspect of the affair made me wonder at how we are treating all females. We show them as sluts and whores, and then we let the males off the hook. In my mind the whole thing was more of either a huge mistake on her part, or an older boss putting a lot of pressure on his young female underling. Either way, slut shaming her and dropping her from the next picture, firing her, and not having any consequences for the director doesn’t make any sense to me. She is in her early twenties and how will she be able to come back from this after being labelled the “Trampire?”

When we make so much media about how it is ok to slut shame, it is ok for a bunch of old white men to make a lot of money on the back of a girl who didn’t make anything but saved the world, when we venerate the Gossip Girls of the world, maybe it is time to change things a little bit.

I am not going to stop watching Buffy the Vampire Slayer, I am just going to have in my head an alternate version to tell my boys when the time comes. In season 5 when Buffy figures out that she does indeed have all the power and gets Giles his job back, I will tell the alternate version, that she is bold and asks for some money herself. Buffy has the power and she should be compensated fairly for the work she does. I want my boys to grow up in a world where women are fairly compensated for the work they do, ALL the work they do. I want them to see not the slut shaming, or misogyny, but a world where all people no matter their race, gender, sexual preference, language are treated fairly. So, Joss, if you get the chance, I want Buffy and Faith to get a fair and decent wage. It might not be as good for the story arc, but it would make me feel so much better about the show.

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